By: Anonymous Contributors

Published: 11/04/2026

Q: “I, 23 yr old (f) have been working 2 yrs @ my job & I had/have a crush on a 48 yr old baldie (he’s married) We’ve been flirting 4 like a year & recently he quit & confessed that he wants me BADDD we met up ONCE & he felt me up & I cried. We’re still in contact but I’m not giving him anything. What should I do (I don’t want to block him idgaf)”

A: In your entire 23 years of life, that man has lived more than double that; that’s genuinely a whole other lifetime of experience! So I say this gently, but there’s really no happy ending to a situation like this…And I think even you know it– trust your body’s intuition! If you’re crying after or while seeing someone, that’s not the person for you. Someone who’s worth your time and energy will be able to love you openly :)

– Your Friends in the City

Q: “This guy I was sleeping with for a year I let him borrow my crockpot and basically had to beg for it back. My fault for even letting him borrow it. We’ve built more than just a hookup situationship so I felt like I could let him borrow things but maybe I read more into the situation. I know that it’s been a year since we’ve been hooking up and I should give up that one day he will change his mind but every time he comes back I get more sucked in. Soon I’m gonna wake tf up and let him go”

A: Remember: in relationships, your belongings are an extension of yourself. If a guy’s willing to disrespect your crockpot and your boundaries with it, he’ll eventually be willing to treat you the same way. If he’s not showing signs of giving you the type of relationship you want then you’re right, you do need to let him go! Ending a situationship’s a game of endurance– the longer you can stay away the more you’ll realize you never really needed it. Good luck!

– Your Friends in the City

Q: “How to get out of a situationship and be friends?”

A: Deescalating out of a situationship back into a friendship after the wires of intimacy get crossed is definitely tough… and this is something we say from experience! But have you talked it out? It takes a lot of time, trust, and willingness from both parties; sometimes talking about things and giving it time is all that you can do. It's not impossible and it can actually be awesome when it does work. On the other hand, if you have talked it out and they’re still not getting the hint, maybe you have to reassess how much you want this friend. If they can’t respect your boundaries now, how good of a friend will they be in the long run?

– Your Friends in the City

Q: “Why do men talk the talk but never walk the walk? They promise & say all these things and do 0% of it! Why? (1/2)”

GA: Talking is so easy and these days people are so used to putting up a front. Social media gets you primed for putting up a presentation, and that's what men are really good at: putting up a presentation. I mean, even masculinity itself is a presentation, so it’s no wonder so much of it is based around talk first, action later (or never).

Q: “Do you think the world would be better if we put men underground in a prison? I do (2/2)”

A: You don’t even knowwww how much time I’ve spent wishing for the very same thing! But unfortunately, these wishes haven’t been answered. So for the time being, while we have to cohabitate above ground peacefully, what are we supposed to do? I say never back down from your expectations and never let them get away with falling short! And one day someone will do all 100% of what they say!

– Your Friends in the City

Q: “Why do men always have to be weird?”

A: Social conditioning, lack of repercussions, literally just cause they wanna… the list goes on. Here at Friendcities, we’re no stranger to weird men! But no matter how bleak the options look, try not to let it discourage you! When we write off men as being naturally or automatically weird, we’re giving them an easy out. They’re rational beings (even if they’re not acting like it) who are just as capable of being respectful, considerate, etc. as anyone else, and they needa be held to those standards! But yeah, they’re weird asf.

– Your Friends in the City

Q: “What does it mean if he didn’t kiss me for six dates?”

A: Well, I think it depends. There’s plenty of reasons he might not be initiating: religiousness, shyness, nervousness. It’s easy to jump to the conclusion that he’s not into you, but closed mouths don’t get kissed, so to speak. If you’re ready for intimacy, tell him! On the other hand, if forwardness or initiative is something you really value, this might be an early sign of incompatibility; you don’t want to have to constantly coach a man through your needs, you know? Either way, a little communication goes a long way!

– Your Friends in the City

Q: “Can’t stop fucking my ex!!! Crazy style too….”

A: Please stop…

Just kidding, we get it! But really, you should probably stop. If this is a situation where the relationship is worth salvaging then it’s best to navigate and officialize that, rather than drawing out the time where things are just up in the air. But if it’s a situation where the breakup was necessary and they’re your ex for a good reason, then we strongly recommend ripping off that band-aid! Again, this kind of thing is a test of endurance (no pun intended); it’s tough at first, but the longer you can stay away, the more you’ll see you never needed it. There’s no shortage of sex in this world, so why not have it with someone who didn’t hurt you, right?

– Your Friends in the City

Q: “Do I want a boyfriend or a dog? I’m lonely but when I think about what I want, I don’t really want someone to talk to, I just want someone to sit with while I do what I want hehe. And laugh when I say something funny b/c I’m funny as shit…”

A: Could the solution just be more quality time with friends? It doesn’t have to be anything fancy, either; sometimes “parallel-playing” and knowing your friend is there is all you need. Your friends will always think you’re way funnier than some man does, and dogs mostly don’t even get jokes. Besides, seeking relationships or pets to fill a void puts a lot of pressure on both parties. You don’t wanna make a commitment and then realize it wasn’t really what you needed after all! Try to wait it out– love is best when it comes naturally.

– Your Friends in the City

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